That's it exactly! Unfortunately, doctors think they can control their patients better that way by forcing your hand and cornering you. But they do it in such a way that makes them look better than they are. Go to www.vbacfacts.com and get all the info you can. She has a wonderful site with tons of up to date info and advice! And you can facebook her "Jen VBACfacts Kamel" and she has a group on facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/vbacfactscommunity/ Get Penny Simkin's THE BIRTH PARTNER and Korte's THE VBAC COMPANION and Ina May Gaskin's INA MAY GASKIN'S COMPLETE GUIDE TO CHILDBIRTH at the very least. Those will give you a great foundation of pregnancy, labor, birth, and VBAC's. Go on the Ican website also.
Find an experienced Doula who has worked with VBACs before who can educate and coach you through this. And immediately force your doctor's hand on the info while searching for midwives and other doctors for backup. You will have to do all this learning and doctor hunting as fast as you can before your window shuts and they refuse to take you for prenatal care. Its going to come down to how committed you are to having this VBAC. Unfortunately, women have to work very hard for them. What they said about educating yourself on all the processes of birth is true. That's another good reason to find a Doula who is also a Childbirth Educator if you can. Then you get the best of both worlds. Find an in-depth prepared childbirth class series that lasts 6-8 weeks-so you know it will cover everything well.